Should You Let Your Cuckold Watch?
Ultimately, I believe the benefits of letting your cuckold watch you have sex with another man outweigh the potential detriments, but you’ll have to make that decision for yourself.
In this article I’ll go over the possible positives and negatives of letting your cuckold watch and I’ll give you a list of suggestions that can help mitigate some of the potentially damaging outcomes of letting him watch. Let’s get to it!
The Positives of Letting Your Cuckold Watch
It’s best to think of these as potential positive outcomes. There’s no guarantee all of this (or even any of it, to be honest) will come to pass, but if things go well it may be that all of these things become your reality.
- He Has a Hugely Arousing Sexual Experience – While it’s often difficult for a potential hotwife to understand, your husband’s cuckold desires are a manifestation of his sexuality. Watching you have sex with another man has the potential to feel like the best sex he’s ever had even if his cock isn’t anywhere near you while it’s happening. If it goes especially well, he may feel like he’s experiencing a kind of full body arousal that he didn’t even know was possible.
- It’s a Lot Easier to Relive It if He Watches – Your cuckold will almost certainly want to relive your experience with another man, whether he watches or not. He’ll want to talk to you about it as you fool around and he’ll probably want to enjoy a masturbation session or two (or two dozen) as he fantasizes about it. That becomes a great deal easier if he watched, as he just has to close his eyes and he’ll see it playing out. If you’re in total control of his orgasms, you can use the fact that he was given permission to watch as a way to enhance his pleasure when you allow him to climax (dirty talk, etc).
- He May Fully Understand His Sexual Inadequacy – Now this is far from a guarantee, but if you’re interested in sleeping with another man because your cuckold has a small penis or is a poor to average lover, letting him watch will make it perfectly clear that he does not meet your needs. This could just as easily go in the negative category depending on how his new understanding might impact your life or marriage, but there can be benefits to it. For instance, your cuckold may decide that he should go down on you quite a bit more often and that he should encourage you to enjoy having sex with your new lover whenever you please, even if he’s not able to watch.
- His Appreciation for You Will Deepen – If you let your cuckold watch, he will almost certainly understand that you are giving him a gift. It should be clear that it’s not his right to watch (you should work to make that clear) and that you’re letting him watch because you love him and you want him to experience his fantasy in person. As long as you’ve made that clear, chances are very good that your cuckold will develop a deep, loving appreciation for you because you’ve given him this great gift.
- He May Become More Submissive – This isn’t necessarily something you want, but if you want your husband to be more submissive, letting him watch can be a very effective way of reaching that goal. This is particularly true if you find an “alpha male” type that can truly fuck you (provided that’s what you’re into). If the sex between you and your new lover is vastly different from what your cuckold husband provides, he may fall into a submissive state as he realizes that another man truly provides you with something he cannot. Whether or not you find that useful is up to you.
- After Sex Play (or Cuckold Reclamation) is Far More Potent – Your cuckold almost certainly wants to play in some way after you’ve had sex with another man. This type of play varies by couple. Sometimes it’s sex. Sometimes it’s clean up. Sometimes it’s pussy worship. Sometimes it’s a simple handjob to make him cum. Whatever your variety of play, it will be far more potent if your cuckold has watched, both because it will happen much sooner (licking your pussy right after your lover has pulled out will be far more arousing for your cuckold, for instance) and because he’ll almost certainly be hugely turned on because he got to witness your pleasure.
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The Negatives of Letting Your Cuckold Watch
I believe the positives almost always outweigh any potential negatives, but there are a few outcomes that can be disastrous. These typically happen because actually watching is a great deal different from merely fantasizing about being cuckolded and can generate emotional responses that your cuckold isn’t ready for.
Again, these are only potential outcomes. They’re far from guaranteed, but it’s good to be aware of what might happen so you can be better prepared for it.
- His Anxiety and Jealousy Overcome His Desire – It’s almost guaranteed that your cuckold is going to experience anxiety and jealousy on some level. It’s programmed into his brain to experience those things as he watches his wife have sex with another man. That’s usually just fine. The problem is that it can quickly spin out of control. This usually happens when your cuckold’s expectations of what was going to happen don’t match up with reality. The simplest example is that he thought you’d be fucking and it ends up feeling like you’re making love to another man. Suddenly the jealousy overwhelms his arousal and he freaks out. That can be very problematic, especially if it results in some sort of physical altercation.
- Your Lover May Not Be Able to Perform – This is more common than you might think, even with guys that say they’ll have no problem whatsoever having sex while your husband watches. They say it and they mean it, and then they get in your bedroom and they see your husband sitting there and playing with his cock and they can no longer get stiff. This tends to happen with greater frequency when you’re trying to connect with your husband while having sex with your lover. If he’s not prepared for it, he can end up feeling like a prop in your kinky game and it can deflate his erection.
- It Can Ruin His Confidence – For many men, their confidence is tied directly to their ability to perform sexually. If your husband watches another man have sex with you and witnesses you having great orgasms (which should always be the goal if you’re going to have sex with someone else) he may find his confidence diminished. This can have genuine deleterious effects on the rest of his life (at work in particular). Generally, this outcome can be mitigated by skillful aftercare.
- He Can Ruin it for You – Yes, you want your cuckold to enjoy the fact that you’re having sex with someone else. You also want to have great sex with that other person. You want to experience the kind of orgasm you deserve. You want to enjoy the thrills of being with someone new. Your husband has the power to ruin that. Sometimes, when a cuckold watches he finds that it’s not going quite like he imagined it would. Sometimes, he decides that he needs to intervene by taking control in a way he shouldn’t (or doesn’t deserve to), or that he’s going to act out in some way that brings an early end to the evening because he believes needs aren’t being met.
- It Could Damage Your Relationship – This really only happens when it turns out that your cuckold didn’t really want his fantasy to come true. This tends to play out afterwards, and in small doses, like him being bitter about the fact that you had a great orgasm with someone else, or asking if you think your lover is better looking than him, etc. This largely only occurs if the relationship is already on the rocks and the act of cuckolding him is really just the catalyst for finally destroying it.
How to Ensure Letting Your Cuckold Watch Goes Well
There are ways to ensure that your cuckold has a great time watching you have sex with another man and that you get the most out of the experience as well. To me, it’s absolutely worth ensuring that it’s a great experience for both of you.
- Make Sure He Doesn’t Cum Until You’re Done – This one is an absolute must. Your cuckold can be permitted to masturbate while he watches, but he cannot cum until you and your lover are finished. If he cums beforehand, every bit of his desire will dry up and any anxiety, jealousy, and insecurity he’s feeling are free to come to the forefront. It’s right after his orgasm that things are bound to get messiest. For that reason, you must make it clear that he cannot cum until afterwards. If he cannot contain himself, you must put his cock in chastity and unlock him when you’re done with your lover (or tie him up/cuff him). As a backup, you can insist that he leaves the room if he makes a mistake and cums before you’ve finished.
- Introduce Your Cuckold and Your Lover Outside the Bedroom – Your cuckold should not be meeting your lover for the first time on the night he’s going to watch you have sex. Do it outside the house on another day, preferably a few weeks beforehand. The primary benefit of this is that it gives your cuckold a chance to adjust his expectations/fantasy. He can spend a few weeks picturing you with that particular person and it makes it less likely that he’ll be taken by surprise in any way when he’s watching you have sex.
- Don’t Let Him Watch the First Time You and Your Lover Have Sex – It’s possible your cuckold won’t be on board with this, but it can be really helpful in many ways. First, you and your lover get to find your sexual rhythm without your cuckold there (plus, you get to find out if the sex is going to be good). Second, you can then go home to your cuckold and have fun with him while also letting him know (hopefully through dirty talk) exactly what to expect when he finally gets to watch. Again this has the benefit of helping him adjust his fantasy before the big moment. The closer his fantasy is to reality, the less likely he is to be disappointed or upset when it actually happens.
- Stay Sober – While alcohol helps to lower inhibitions, it can also lead to messy consequences you don’t want to deal with. A good buzz has a way of heightening things, and in this case that might be the negative emotions your cuckold is experiencing. You want him to keep those in check, so don’t add any fuel that might make them worse.
- Consider a Hotel – Letting your cuckold watch in a neutral location can help to remove a lot of the emotion that often leads to messiness. If he’s watching you have sex in a hotel bed instead of your marital bed, he’s far less likely to be overwhelmed by the anxiety and jealousy that will absolutely be roiling inside him. Save having sex in your marital bed (or your living room, kitchen, etc) for later after you’re both more experienced with the cuckold and hotwife dynamic.
- Check in with Your Cuckold – While it’s fun to get completely lost in having great sex with your new lover, make sure that you check in with your cuckold while he’s watching. It’s most effective to do it via dirty talk. “Do you like watching him fuck me, honey?” or something similar is a simple way to let him know that you’re still paying attention to him and that you want to make sure he’s having a good time. Sometimes, that can be enough to pull him back from going to a bad, destructive place.
Letting Your Cuckold Watch Can and Should Be Great Fun
If your cuckold wants to watch (not all cuckolds do), you should be able to find a way to make it work for your marriage. You just need to be mindful of the potential pitfalls and to take your time with it.
It’s also worth keeping in mind that you can recover even if it goes poorly. As long as you’re willing to talk to each other about the experience you had, you can bounce back from even the most disastrous of outcomes.
If you both work together to ensure a good experience, you’ll find that letting your cuckold watch results in a stronger marriage and a more satisfying sex life, which is something I’m sure you can both get behind.
June 7, 2019 @ 5:57 am
As always really good advice. I think the most important part was the question of your husband cumming during the “event” before its his turn. I have experience of this. It fundamentally (if briefly) changes the whole dynamic and possibly disastrously. In our case my husband experiences (mercifully briefly – like five minutes even) an immediate come-down on these things after he cums. I’d go so far as to say he is briefly ashamed that he’s been so excited at another man doing me. Does that make sense? Quite quickly he’s hard and excited again (more quickly than his normal recovery period) but things can go wrong in that five minutes of down time. Beside he’ll cum even better if you make him wait until your lover has finished!
Many thanks again xx
July 18, 2022 @ 3:53 am
I’m a very sensitive and emotional sissy cuckold, I been cut off totally from conventional sex with my wife and I often cum while I watch her having sex with her lover, when that happens I always start crying after I cum so she ask me out of the room and they call me back after sex for cleaning and eating the pie, I enjoy my wife’s sexual live to the fullest, I never thought I was going to be so happy.
August 28, 2019 @ 10:17 am
My wife has never let me watch. In the beginning I was not happy about that, but after she told me she knew I would never leave her no matter what she did, I learned to play by her rules. After all, she was right. I would never leave her. So all these years I have been a stay at home cuckold. Also she cut me off from sex with her about 8 years ago. She is good enough to give me details of her adventures so that I can jerk off. She won’t however, give me details of the current man she is seeing, only the ones from the past. It’s just another aspect of control she uses on me. My beautiful wife knows how to manipulate men so well with sex it’s scary. I love her even more for that. I am 10 years older than her and I stay horny 24/7.
July 18, 2022 @ 3:56 am
Mickey, you are adorable, congratulations, besitos
December 30, 2019 @ 3:24 am
Not only should the husband watch , he should participate. When the husband is totally invested he becomes more willing and easier to manage. If the husband sucks cock enough he will get to like it and look forward to other men. The same goes for cleaning and fucklicking , it breaks him down. It is even beneficial to have the husband find bulls, of course the wife has final veto. Make him explain to the prospective bull that the cuck will be expected to service his cock. Having the husband suck cock also helps to control the bulls since they are letting another man suck them which is frowned upon and few alpha males will admit to this, so much for alpha males all the men are cucks in these affairs.
February 26, 2020 @ 9:01 am
February 28, 2020 @ 11:59 pm
What about introduce your husband to your lover while being crossdressed in a delicious french maid outfit. It would be so humiliating that he wont even feel the power to disturb you as he watches.
February 1, 2021 @ 1:57 am
yes, crossdresing has always been part of my cuckolding experience, it was require by my wife when she first start cuckolding me and i think is a positive thing for all the parts involve
July 18, 2022 @ 3:59 am
Lol, you just described me, I own five different color French maid uniforms that I always wear when he come home weekly to fuck my wife.
April 1, 2020 @ 11:09 pm
i promise …i would be good cuckold
October 10, 2020 @ 12:29 am
Nothing, ABSOLUTELY NOTHING, has ever gotten me so incredibly turned on as when I’ve given my girlfriend permission to “play” for a weekend. I just can’t stop thinking about it. I’m constantly, and I mean constantly masturbating. I’m distracted, so much so that I can only engage in this when I’m not busy with work that requires serious concentration.
There are some rules and they are mostly there to keep my sexual frenzy at a slow boil. I love watching her pack her suitcase, seeing the things she is taking. Sometimes I purchase an extra large box of condoms–it depends on the situation. The thought of each of those condoms representing a sexual encounter is a major turn on.
When she returns home I make her tell me everything in detail. And we fuck. Fuck so hard and so long that time disappears. None of my friends know about these activities and they would never guess. Every girlfriend to whom I have suggested this has initially balked, but then signed on eagerly. Just writing these paragraphs here has me so turned on I have to stop typing and masturbate. To a person, I appear like a mild-mannered attractive male. No one guesses just how kinky my sexual tastes are. And I love corrupting innocent women with these ideas that heretofore they had never considered.
November 27, 2020 @ 7:53 am
I love watching my wife with her fucker. He has low hanging balls, and I am always fascinated to watch them rise in his scrotum when he is cumming inside of her. I am amazed to see them contract each time he pumps more cum. She is okay with me stroking my cock while they fuck, but if I cum before they are done, I’m required to eat my cum, before I can lick her clean, and suck him hard again. I try not to cum, as as soon as I do I lose any desire to eat it, or another man’s. Sometimes my wife makes me do it like that, knowing I definitely don’t want cum in my mouth after I’ve made my mess.
February 5, 2021 @ 9:57 am
we cuckolds share a lot of similarities, but in general we all have a life of joy and sexual pleasure, I been cut off from sex for many years and my wife lover is not much of a secret, shes very explicit and no shy about her affair , many people, friends and family know. Im a maid at home but I learn to enjoy sex thru my wifes experiences, Im allow to eat the pie must of the time, they prefer privacy during sex but I know whats going on and when they finish Im called must of the time to clean. that to me is the ultimate experience and i enjoy it so much. I always wear my maid uniform when his home but he treat me very well.
March 3, 2021 @ 5:48 pm
Most of the time I’m excluded from my wife and her bulls. She told me that having me there causes her to feel inhibited. Because I want her to have the whole sexual experience I have reluctantly agreed not to be present most of the time. On occasion I have been present, and it was an incredible experience. I’ve never known such sexual excitement. I masturbated while watching them but didn’t cum. Watching another man bring my wife to her full sexual pleasure was beyond words. I was actually shaking while watching them. When my wife was done she blew me, but I came immediately.
I wish I could be present at each encounter, but she won’t allow it. Sometimes I get to listen in, and that is exciting also. Hearing her sounds at the height of her orgasm is very exciting. Our sex life is ok, but I can’t excite her like her lovers can. She told me that due to my penis size, my lack of orgasm control, and my lack of technique that she needs to have other lovers that can fulfill her sexually. I love my wife, so I’m ok with that. I just wish I could be present more while she’s making love to her bulls.
March 9, 2021 @ 4:09 pm
This is Sandy, I’m Steven’s wife. Steven posted a message above, and I just found it. I had no idea he posted. However, I would like to add my thoughts.
I prefer not to have my husband present while I’m having sex with one of my bulls. For the most part I find that it inhibits my sexual expression and fulfillment. The sex I have with my bull is so much better than the sex I have with my husband, and I know it shows. I’m driven almost delirious with sexual passion. I’m very vocal with my bull, telling him what I want and expressing my pleasure when I get it. I guess because of this I feel a little guilty. If my husband is present he can actually see first hand how inadequate he is, both in endowment and in performance and technique. Penis size is very important to me and I worship the cock on my bull. I love to suck him to orgasm, and I love the huge loads he delivers in my mouth. I don’t want my husband to see that. My bull brings me to multiple orgasms. I don’t want my husband to see that. My bull lasts all night without cumming, and when he does cum he’s ready for more just a short time later. I don’t want my husband to see that. I don’t want to have my husband watch my bull cum inside me or watch my bull lick my pussy to orgasm. My husband can’t do any of these things. My husband told me that he gets sexual pleasure watching my bull pleasure me, but still I don’t want him there. I only have my bull over two or three times a month, so this is my special time to finally get what I need, to finally be completely sexually satisfied and I don’t want my husband there to ruin it.
March 12, 2021 @ 1:36 pm
Thank you for sharing your perspective. I totally understand your desire to be alone with your bull. I know most cuckolds like to watch, but if his presence is going to diminish your pleasure in any way then I can see why you wouldn’t want him there.
June 19, 2021 @ 2:33 pm
I am the “other” Steven on this thread. No connection, apart from a shared love of cucking. I’m actually well endowed but still I can’t get enough of letting my girlfriend get hammered by her bull. I got totally hard and wet reading your reply, above. I support your desire to cuck in private. I can assure you that your Steven is driven to delirious states of sexual frenzy.
If you’d ever like to explore this further, I not only enjoy being cucked, but I play the bull, too. (And now I’m going to go stroke my hard cock for the next 2-3 hours. Be a good girl and reply. -Steven
March 23, 2021 @ 12:04 am
I firmly believe that you should.
For us it totally reinforced my sexual fulfillment and that he could never be in that league.
May 8, 2021 @ 7:25 am
Unfortunately, I’ve been with couples where the partner can’t perform for it’s wife, and I’ve been there to help her as her submissive sex boy. More often than naught, after a week of exploration she asks for a 3some with her hubby. I’m up for it, but the hubby, faced with the reality, has begged out, fled the scene, or otherwise broken down. Her desires obviously outgrew his abilities, and the next stage takes place without my assistance. I only hope they don’t end because of it.
August 4, 2021 @ 12:31 pm
I would love to watch my wife with another man. I dream about it often. We have spoken about it often. I fantasize about it often. I don’t think it will ever happen though as she is not into it, but she doesn’t mind indulging my fantasies and talk about them. It is usually on vacation and we meet a “stranger” at the bar or at the pool. I would love to watch her with another man, I would love to suck him hard and offer her to him, I also want to suck her cum off of his cock when done…..maybe sucking him hard again so they can go again. I am envious of couples that have the security of the relationship, the communication and the willingness to do this in their lives !!
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August 31, 2021 @ 7:56 am
Yes, let him watch you taking a bigger dick 😍
September 19, 2022 @ 1:38 pm
I believe both is important. So far we always met a new bull together first, then when the trust was established and my husband has seen us together, I started seeing him solo too.
I do allow my husband to be there sometimes, as I think it’s important for him to witness how much better my lovers fuck me, to be able to accept his role fully. Also I love to connect with him by sometimes holding his hand and keeping an eye contact. It’s a very intimate moment between us, that a bull enables us to experience together.
On the other had this article gave me the idea to try it the other way around. Next time with a new bull I won’t allow my husband to watch in the beginning, only when I already have a connection and when we learn each other’s bodies. This way it will be more anticipation for him and also more intense if he can see that I already have a great sexual chemistry with my lover.
September 20, 2022 @ 4:32 am
Hi Kate, just a note to express that I feel admiration and devotion for woman like you. I’m a happy sissy cuckold in Florida and my wife have been with the same lover for over eight years giving her sex exclusively to him. Thank you, besitos. Bernie.
September 20, 2022 @ 5:43 am
Dear Sandy, don’t feel sorry about your hubby, your sexual life in priority. He’s very lucky to have you and that’s plenty for him. I’m a sissy cuckold and like your hubby inadequate and sub rated therefore I’m not allowed to conventional sex, she don’t have to suffer the inconvenience of my inability, that’s why she have a lover, I compensate that been usefull, serving ,gracefully and loyal. Thank you. Besitos Bernie