It’s not uncommon for a cuckold to crave submission. It’s not uncommon for that cuckold’s wife to have no sense of how to meet her husband’s need to submit. This guide to adding a little femdom to your cuckold marriage aims to solve that problem with a series of ideas – ranging from mild to wild – to help ignite the kinky part of you.
Read through the ideas, talk about them with your cuckold, and experiment with the ones that turn you on the most. And don’t hesitate to adapt each idea to make it work for your specific situation.
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Chastity & Orgasm Control
This is the bedrock of your domination. I promise it will be so much easier to put your cuckold in a submissive place if you’ve placed his cock in chastity and you maintain strict control over his orgasms.
For the first few days he’ll likely fight you on it. He might be rude, too (a good spanking will cure that). He’ll rebel against the idea of being under your control and being unable to orgasm.
After just a few days – perhaps a little longer – things will change. He’ll become far more pliant. He’ll understand that he’s not getting out of chastity unless he’s well-behaved. He’ll understand that he must submit to be granted an orgasm, which he wants more than anything in the world.
That’s when you can really start having fun. That’s when you can begin training him to be the submissive you want him to be. Remember, dominating your cuckold should be mutually pleasurable, so you need to find a way to make it work for you (the many ideas below should give you a good starting place to begin your domination).
Here are a few tips to make chastity play more effective:
- Don’t schedule his orgasms – He should be released and allowed to climax at random intervals. That way he’ll always be on his best behavior. You can say that you might let him out on a certain day, but never guarantee it.
- He needs to orgasm from time to time – As tempting as it might be to leave him in chastity forever, you will need to give him an orgasm every once in a while. It should be more frequent at first and then you can stretch it out as you continue with chastity play.
- Tease him constantly – I wrote an article about this, but the short version is that if you’re going to put him in chastity you really need to be teasing him all the time. The idea is to arouse him as often as possible. The more aroused he gets, the more submissive he’ll be (eventually; he might be defiant and eager for release at first).
- Be strict – Remember, your cuckold craves female domination. He craves your control. If he misbehaves (like stealing the key and unlocking his cock to masturbate), you need to be strict. Walk away from the kink play for a while. You need to make it clear that if he wants to be dominated, he needs to understand that your rules are the only rules that matter. Either he submits to chastity or he doesn’t get to be your cuckold.
Strapon sex is the ultimate form of role reversal in a relationship. Suddenly, you have the cock. You’re the one doing the fucking. He’s the one taking balls deep penetration. He’s the one getting on his hands and knees or lying on his back and spreading his legs.
That role reversal is just the beginning of the femdom cuckold play when you put on a beautiful strapon cock and fuck your husband. You can determine how far you’d like to take it, but there are all kinds of naughty ways you can assert your dominance.
If you want to tilt it towards romantic femdom, put him on his back and make love to him with your cock. Kiss him as you slide into his asshole. Fuck him slowly and really take your time to ensure he doesn’t feel even a little bit of pain.
On the other hand, you can bend him over, lube up a nice big strapon cock, and take his ass hard and fast from behind. Show him what it feels like to be on the receiving end of a good pounding.
Want to go deeper into dominating him with your strapon? That’s where verbal play comes in. Even a little dirty talk can make a strapon fucking so much more effective. It can range from pushing him a little deeper into a submissive space to humiliating him in a way you both find thrilling. Here are some examples:
“Tell me how much you love my cock, cuckold.”
“Do you want me to fuck you harder, baby? Do you want more of my cock inside you?”
“Beg me to fuck your tight little ass.”
“Bend over like a good little slut and spread your ass cheeks for me.”
“I’m going to destroy your ass, cucky. I’m going to stretch you out and make you my little bitch. I’m going to turn this ass into a pussy.”
“I’m going to fuck you hard and fast, just like my bull fucks me. I’m going to show you what it’s like to be taken, cuck.”
The more creative you are, the more he’ll enjoy it. You know better than anyone what your submissive cuckold is into, so customize your dirty talk to amp up the thrills.
Facesitting & Smothering
Facesitting is fairly self-explanatory. You sit on his face. It’s a beautiful, intoxicating way of exerting control over your submissive husband and there are several different ways to explore this particular form of femdom cuckold play.
If you look up facesitting videos, you’ll see that the girl is typically naked from the waist down, and that’s how your cuckold will most likely prefer it. Of course, what he wants doesn’t really matter in this case, does it? Do what you find the most arousing.
There’s something sexy about sitting on his face with your naked pussy or ass. You’re literally smothering him with your sex. If your cuckold isn’t allowed to fuck you, this can feel so much more powerful. He’ll be so close to the thing that he’s routinely denied. If you forbid him from licking you while you’re sitting on his face, it’s an even more painful form of domination.
That being said, if you choose to wear panties, shorts, a bikini, or any number of other articles of clothing, it’s an entirely different and delightful form of domination. Now you’re denying him the pleasure of touching your pussy. He’s close, but he doesn’t even get a taste of it. That sounds fun too, doesn’t it?
Smothering is an offshoot of facesitting that’s designed around breathplay. It’s pretty hard to actually completely deny him the ability to breathe by sitting on his face, but you can make it harder. It can give you a thrilling sense of control if you choose to put it into practice, though. Literally controlling his breath while you sit on his face can be quite the rush.
If you’re at all into kink fashion, facesitting is a great activity. Put on a pair of latex shorts, pants, or even a skirt and sit on his face. Let him smell the kinky fabric. Let him taste it if you want. He’s likely aroused by it too, and being so close can get him all hot and bothered while you remain in control of whether or not he orgasms.
Feminizing your cuckold husband is a simple but hugely effective way of dominating him. Plus, there are so many different ways to do it.
Wearing women’s clothing, especially when it’s of a particularly feminine nature, is in direct contrast to what men are “supposed” to be. That’s why this is such an effective form of domination. When he’s in a pair of pink lace panties, it’s awfully hard for him to try and wrest control from you.
If you’re having trouble getting your husband to tamp down his annoying male ego, feminization is the first thing you should try. It’s a lot harder to complain about how often your bull fucks you and how your cuck doesn’t get to fuck you if you have him dressed in a bra, panties, and a pair of stockings. Are his complaints about having to do chores getting on your nerves? Put him in a soft satin French maid’s uniform and he won’t act up so much.
Within this particular form of femdom cuckold play there are so many ways to have fun. Below I’ve listed a handful of ideas to get you started. It shouldn’t take long to come up with other fun ways of feminizing your husband. You don’t have to limit yourself to dressing him in women’s clothes, either.
- Make him wear your dirty panties – This can be particularly fun if they have another man’s cum inside them. Just think of how humiliating it will be for your husband to have someone else’s cum tucked up against his cock and balls all day long.
- Take him shopping for his own lingerie – This is a tried and true feminization and humiliation technique. If you’re feeling bold, involve a sales girl (if she seems friendly to the idea; you can even ask ahead). Having him pick out his own panties (and a bra if you want to go further) is a great way to dominate him.
- Make him wear lingerie to bed – Sleeping in soft, feminine lingerie will unquestionably make your husband feel like less of a man. It will generate beautiful submissive feelings, too.
- Make him clean the house in women’s underwear – Put him in a pair of pretty panties and make him do chores. Tell him he’s being a good girl. If you want to increase the domination, make sure he’s in his chastity device. It’s even better if his panties are sheer so he can see his locked cock all day long.
- Send him to work in panties – He’ll spend the entire day feeling those pretty panties hugging his cock and balls. He’ll come home in a deeply submissive place.
Feel free to come up with your own naughty ideas. Remember, your cuckold wants to be dominated. He wants to feel submissive. Use that to your advantage and have fun with it.
Painful Punishments for Your Cuckold
There’s nothing quite like a vigorous, painful punishment to put a man into a submissive headspace.
The simplest (and sometimes most humiliating) form of punishment is to take him over your knee and give him a spanking on his bare ass. Combine it with a verbal description of why he’s being spanked (he’s almost certain to disappoint you in one way or another, so make note of that and tell him about it as you spank him) and you’ll find your domination is exceptionally successful.
If you want to go beyond using your hand, there are lots of options. It always adds an extra layer of humiliation to put him over your knee, but you can still use different implements to punish him, many of which are household items. These can include a hairbrush, a wooden spoon (or other kitchen items), a piece of footwear (a sandal, for instance, would be great for foot fetishists), or really anything that’s flat and can be swung with force.
If you want to have a little more fun, lay out the various items and have him pick one before you put him over your knee. The more you involve him in his punishment, the more effective it can be.
That’s why you want to keep up a dialogue with him as you deliver the punishment. Tell him ahead of time how many spanks he’s earned and then have him count them out. Have him thank you after each one, too. After all, you’re ultimately punishing him for his benefit. You’re teaching him to be a better submissive cuckold.
If you want to move beyond putting him over your knee there are all kinds of BDSM implements of pain you can use to punish him. These include canes, paddles, whips, and much more. Keep it simple at first, though. You’ll want to be familiar with whatever you’re using so you don’t injure him, which would be counter to the entire process.
Consuming His Cum
If you have any experience dominating or cuckolding your husband, chances are you’re familiar with what happens after he cums. You know that it’s the time he’s most likely to act in a deeply unpleasant and/or distasteful way. The lust/desire that built up basically leaves his body along with his cum and he almost instantly exits the submissive headspace he’s been living in.
Thankfully, having your husband consume his cum is a great way to counteract the effects of his post-orgasmic departure from a submissive headspace.
Convincing him to eat his cum is often more difficult than it might seem, in large part because the moment he has an orgasm your submissive will likely lose all interest in consuming his seed. All that wild desire that built up as you brought him to the edge of orgasm will disappear in an instant.
That’s the magic of it, though. He’ll be doing something he wouldn’t normally do, something he doesn’t really want to be doing. He’ll be doing it for you. He’ll be submitting to your desires, and in consuming his cum he will sink back into subspace, at least a little, and getting him at least a little of the way there will be enormously beneficial.
The first time is going to be the most difficult, but once you’ve convinced him to take the leap into cum consumption you should find it much easier to get him to do it after subsequent orgasms.
For the first time you might want to consider letting him consume his cum from your body. If it’s been a particularly long time since he’s had an orgasm this can be extra exciting for him. Tell him he’s been a good boy and that you’re going to let him cum on your breasts. Tell him that there’s just one little thing he has to do for you to be granted the pleasure of getting to cum on your breasts: He needs to clean up his mess.
You could also offer him a long, slow handjob and spend the entire time talking about the joys of eating his cum and how it would make you so happy if he did. Eventually, you make him promise to consume his load if you’re kind enough to give him an orgasm. Then you catch his load in your hand and gently feed it to him. If he refuses to eat it, you punish him, but not until a little later. Make sure that punishment hurts, too.
Tease and Denial
Taking control of your cuckold’s orgasms is the bedrock of introducing female domination to your relationship. Tease and denial play can help enhance your control and lure him even deeper into submission.
As with so much of femdom cuckold play, you’ll need to experiment a little to find the right balance. Your husband is going to feel frustrated when you get him all worked up and then refuse to let him climax, but that’s the point. He needs to surrender to your control. He needs to recognize that you get to decide when he cums.
His willingness to accept that frustration can be enhanced by the way you tease him. It’s most effective if done frequently and in varying ways. Take ten seconds to offer him a far more passionate kiss than you might one morning. If it’s been a while since he’s had an orgasm he’ll be suitably aroused. Walk away the moment the kiss is over. He’ll be turned on and he’ll be without the means to climax because you’re the one in control and you’ve already left the room.
Lots of little teases are great, but they should also be balanced out by longer, more involved tease play. It should be arousing for you, too, so you’ll have to find something that you enjoy. You could try tying your cuckold to the bed, dressing up in something sexy, and driving him absolutely mad. You could take him inside you and ride him a little. You could talk dirty while you stroke his cock and play with his balls. You could tie him to a chair and rub your body against his until he’s absolutely mad with lust. Then you could deny him or give him an orgasm. It’s up to you.
Tease and denial play is more effective if he has no idea when or if he’s going to cum. Keep it random. It could be that a playful kiss will lead to something more. It could be that a long play session might lead to a beautiful finish inside you. If he’s always in a place of wondering where the tease and denial play is going to go he’ll be on his best behavior and he’ll always happily offer his submission.
Fluid exchange involves your cuckold submitting to your desire to have him accept your spit or piss in his mouth or on his body and it can be a remarkably effective way of putting him in his place.
Spit play is the easiest and cleanest of the two, and it’s where I’d recommend you start. It’s such a simple thing, and yet it can have such a potent effect on your submissive husband. There are so many fun ways to implement it, too. Here are just a few to help get your imagination going:
- Sit on his face and ride him with your pussy. Midway through, slide back until you’re sitting on his chest and then make him open his mouth. Lean down and slowly let your spit stream onto his tongue. Make a show of gathering it if you like. Tell him to swallow and then sit on his face again.
- Give him the pleasure of your pussy by riding him. When you have him close to an orgasm, make him open his mouth so you can spit in it. Make him hold the spit on his tongue until he has an orgasm (or until you do).
- Spit on his face while you’re riding his cock. You can make it a surprise or tell him it’s coming. Either way works.
- Spit on him or in his mouth in non-sexual situations. Walk into his office while he’s working, tell him to open his mouth, and spit on his tongue. It will immediately make him feel submissive, which is a good thing.
- Spit on his face in public. You can be as bold as you want, but I’d do it in a location where you’re in public but not one else can see, like a dressing room at a store. You assert your dominance and he feels a little panic before he can clean himself up, though of course you’ve also aroused him.
Piss play is really just a more potent form of spit play, mostly because it’s often viewed as disgusting, and with good reason. After all, you’re emptying your body’s waste onto or inside of him. Obviously, this isn’t for everyone.
However, if you’re interested, I’d recommend you start by drinking a lot of water to dilute your urine, which will dissipate the sometimes overwhelming smell and make it a lot less difficult for him. You’ll also want to do it in the shower/bathtub (or outside, I suppose) because urine is a pain to clean up.
I’d also recommend starting with pissing on his body to get him used to it. There’s a very good chance he won’t want to do any of it, but that can be a good thing as you get to assert your dominance by convincing him/ordering him to welcome your piss (your waste, essentially) onto his naked body. By surrendering to that, by giving you control over his body, he will feel that submissive pleasure that he craves.
As with the spit play, here are a few ideas to get you started:
- Shower together the first time you want to piss on him. Get him turned on. Maybe soap up his cock. Then, tell him you’re going to piss on him. Tell him to lie down on the shower floor. Stand over him. Squat slowly. Start by pissing on his cock. Let him feel the heat. Smile at him as you do. If you want to reward him, let him masturbate while you’re pissing on his cock. It might help him associate piss play with his pleasure.
- Work your way up his body each time you piss on him in the shower/bathtub. Piss on his stomach. Then his chest. Then his neck. Then piss on his face while his mouth and eyes are closed. Try not to get any up his nose.
- Piss in his mouth. The first time you can make him hold it before spitting it out. You can also keep on pissing and just let it flow out of his mouth and onto the shower floor.
- Make him swallow your piss. If he wants to be good for you, he’ll drink your piss. It will make him feel enormously submissive.
Piss play can be aided by the way you talk about it. You could, for instance, call it your nectar, or your golden nectar. You could ask him if he’s ready to receive and/or drink your nectar. It can add a sense of erotic pleasure to the whole experience if you prefer a gentler approach to domination.
Putting Your Fingers in His Mouth
This is a remarkably simple form of domination, and yet it can be so potent. Whether he’s on his knees, standing in front of you, or lying beneath you, this simple act can trigger deep submissive pleasure in your husband.
The first time, try something easy like reaching up and pressing your thumb against his lower lip as you hold his gaze. He should open his mouth, and when he does, simply slip your thumb onto his tongue. He should suck without thinking, but if he doesn’t, instruct him to do so. If you’d like, you can use your index finger, which lets you get a little deeper in his mouth.
The penetration is an important part of this. You’re filling his mouth. Fucking his face, if you like. You’re taking control over that particular orifice and you’re using it for your pleasure, and in doing so you should be filling him with submissive pleasure.
It will carry extra potency if you do it while he’s on his knees in front of you. He’s taken a naturally submissive position and you then deepen that by slipping your fingers in his mouth. Pump them in and out for extra pleasure. You can also do so while he’s on his back in bed and you’re astride him, whether you’re having sex or not, though I promise your submissive cuckold will love it if he’s inside you while you’re pumping his mouth with your fingers, especially if you’re also talking about how you wish someone else’s cock was in your pussy.
There’s something so naughty about ass worship. It feels a little like a forbidden orifice, mostly because of what comes out of there. That doesn’t mean it’s dirty, of course, but there is something dirty – in the best way possible – about telling your cuckold to get on his knees and worship your ass, which is why you can use it to add a little femdom to your relationship.
If you have a bull/boyfriend, then I’d recommend you have your cuckold get on his knees and worship your ass while you’re doing your hair and makeup before your next date. If you find it difficult to actually do your makeup while you’re getting your ass eaten, then let him do it for a few minutes before sending him on his way. I promise, he’ll enjoy being given the chance to worship your ass for as long as you’re willing to let him remain on his knees.
Depending on how advanced your cuckolding has become, you could have your husband worship your ass while you’re riding your bull’s cock. That works best if you’re on the couch and your cuckold is on his knees between your bull’s legs, and it certainly isn’t for every couple, but it will thrill him.
Ass worship doesn’t have to be associated with his cuckolding, though. You could have him shower with you, give your ass a good cleaning, and then get on his knees to worship it a little while you clean the rest of your body. If you’re feeling a little more dominant, you could have your cuckold get on his knees and worship your ass right after you’ve finished a workout. Make him lick up the sweat. Pull his head between your ass cheeks and smother him with them. Make him really indulge in the pleasure of tasting your sweaty asshole and he’ll love you forever.
A ruined orgasm is when your man has an orgasm – when you see the semen pour from his cock – but when he doesn’t experience the mind-bending pleasure that typically comes with an orgasm. Essentially, you bring him right to the edge of his climax and then you stop stimulating him, but you’ve gotten him so close that he can’t help but cum. If you do it right, he has an orgasm without any pleasure, or with severely diminished pleasure. You can imagine how frustrating that would be.
Why would a man want that? Well, it’s you asserting your dominance. You’re taking control of his orgasm in a more extreme way. You’re making him cum but denying him the pleasure he actually craves. Plus, you’re leaving him in that frustrated headspace, which is actually where he wants to be.
It takes practice to master the art of the ruined orgasm, so you might not be great at it at first, but that’s okay. It’s easiest to master via handjob, so start with that. Take your time, too. The ruination will be more potent if you’ve been teasing him for a while. Feel free to take your pleasure, too. Get on top in a 69 and have him eat your pussy while you stroke his cock. Sit on his face for a little and reach back to play with his dick. Make sure that he’s not allowed to touch his cock, though.
If you’re in tune with your cuckold’s facial expressions and the way he moans, you can also ruin his orgasm during sex, particularly with you on top. You get him right to the edge and then you stop riding him. Watch him feel the frustration as he gets to cum in his wife without actually getting to experience pleasure. This will be particularly potent if this is the first time he’s been allowed inside you for a long time because you have a bull that satisfies your needs and you don’t need your cuckold’s cock. The agony of being denied the pleasure he craves will be delicious for both of you.
Everyone loves a foot rub, right? You know what makes it even better? If your man is giving that foot rub as a form of submission to you. You’re enjoying the pleasure of having your feet rubbed and he’s enjoying the pleasure of submitting to the dominant woman he loves. So, if you want a foot rub, then demand one, for you’re in control.
Foot worship goes beyond simple rubs, though. You can also make him suck on your toes. You can do so whenever you’d like, too (depending on his tolerance for a certain level of grossness, I suppose). If you’ve just been on a long, sweaty walk and/or run, have him take your shoes off and suck on your sweaty toes. Have him show his submission by doing something most men would find a little bit gross. You can also have him wash your feet, which is a surprisingly intimate gesture that has the benefit of feeling quite good.
If you’d like to get a little kinkier, you can make the foot worship include a little bit of play with his cock. Rub your toes over it. Rub the bottom of your feet over it. If you get him to produce a little bit of precum, scoop it up with your toes and make him suck them clean.
Finally, foot worship can be combined with making him clean his cum. Give him a footjob or allow him the pleasure of masturbating and cumming on your feet. Then, order him to clean up his mess and worship your beautiful toes and foot at the same time.
Clothed Female, Naked Male (CFNM)
This is a fairly simple power dynamic. He’s walking around the house naked and vulnerable – his cock and balls are exposed, after all – and you’re fully clothed. You’re free to touch and play with his genitals or smack his ass as you desire, while he is forbidden from doing the same with you. You’re in control. He’s the submissive.
You can extend clothed female, naked male play to the bedroom, as well. Make him strip and get in bed. Climb in with him, but while you’re fully clothed. Stroke his cock. Tease him. I promise, the notion that you still have your clothes on will absolutely change the dynamic. He will feel more vulnerable, which is where you want him to be.
If you’d still like sexual pleasure, you can simply wear a skirt or a dress and then lift it, pull your panties aside, and sit on his face. Or, you can push him to his knees and have him put his head under your skirt to give your pussy the pleasure it craves, all while he remains fully nude and eager to do as you desire.
Dressing in Leather and Latex
I can’t really explain why leather and latex make a woman look – and perhaps feel – more dominant, but I know it’s the case. It’s not magic, of course – you need to act dominant while you’re dressed in leather and latex – but it does make a difference.
Imagine your cuckold is naked and on his knees in your bedroom. You emerge from the closet in a pair of thigh high leather boots, a pair of tight leather shorts, and a tight black leather corset. He will absolutely throw himself at your feet. He will offer to worship you without you having to say a word because you will emanate the kind of dominance that he can’t help but feel drawn to.
The great thing is, there’s such a wide variety of leather and latex clothing available that you can customize your look. You can also buy pleather if you object to the cost or animal origin of leather. The options are very nearly limitless, so I’d start with a little online shopping with your submissive cuckold right next to you. See what he responds to. See what you respond to. Put together an order based on what you both enjoy and then have fun with the results. If you want to add in a riding crop to redden his ass a bit, feel free.
Collar and Leash Play
Normally, a collar and leash is reserved for a pet so you can maintain control of your creature when you take it out for a walk. That, of course, is a big part of what makes this little dose of femdom cuckold fun so delightful.
You put him on his knees. You slip the collar around his neck. You attach the leash. Now you control him. You can walk him around the house. You can order him to sit and stay. You can give him treats when he’s a good boy. Do any of those things and you will put him in a deeply submissive headspace that will utterly delight him, and you might find that it’s unexpectedly exciting to have a cuckold who’s so eager to do anything and everything you desire.
I’d recommend a comfortable collar so you can tug on it without having to worry about chafing his skin. If you happen to have a nickname for him, you could get a little tag with the name inscribed on it to put on the collar, making him feel even more like your pet once you slip it around his neck.
You can use the leash quite effectively in the bedroom. Lead him in – perhaps while dressed in a bit of leather or latex – and have him wait by the side of the bed. Get comfortable – and maybe masturbate a little while he watches and wishes he was between your legs – and then grab the leash and pull hard to urge him into the bed. Tighten your grip and lead him between your legs. Pull hard until his face is pressed against your pussy. Order him to worship you. As a bonus, you can use the loose end of the leash to offer a bit of light pain against his back while he’s using his tongue to make you cum.
If you’re into pegging, there’s nothing better than grabbing the leash and pulling back hard while you fuck him from behind with your strapon. Doing so will make him feel owned, like he’s your property, and in that moment that’s exactly what he’ll want to feel. It might make you feel exceptionally powerful, too, and that’s one of the best reasons to get into dominating your cuckold husband.
Face Dildo Sex
You’ve seen a strapon dildo, right? Well, a face dildo is basically the same thing, only it’s meant to be worn around the face, as the name suggests. It’s an exquisite way to indulge in a bit of femdom cuckold play on multiple levels, which is why I think you should try it.
First, your husband can fuck you with the face dildo, but he won’t get to experience even a hint of the physical pleasure that comes from having his cock buried in your perfect pussy, and isn’t that just thrilling? If you’re wet enough and you ride the face dildo while he’s on his back, you might even drip some of your juices onto him, which would only enhance his beautiful frustration.
Second, the face dildo makes it damn near impossible for him to talk, which in some ways turns your cuckold into little more than a silent toy for you to use. You direct him, he does as he’s told, and he can’t offer any thoughts on the matter because you don’t really care about hearing his thoughts. You just want him to satisfy you with the face dildo.
Third, if you can find a face dildo that has a little something that goes into his mouth – kind of like a little cock that’s usually used for stability – that will make him feel just a little more submissive.
If you can, I’d recommend getting him good and turned on before you introduce the face dildo. It’s especially effective if you act like you’re all kinds of horny and in need of a good fucking. You can even tell him he’s going to fuck you, because he is, it just won’t be with his cock.
Imagine this: Your cuckold husband gets on his knees in front of a man – a gorgeous, muscular, superior man – because you told him to. He kisses the head of that man’s cock because you told him to. He parts his lips and he takes that big, beautiful cock in his mouth and he sucks on it because you told him.
Your husband is straight. He doesn’t want to suck cock. He’s not attracted to the idea of sucking cock. He’s doing it, though. He’s doing it for you. He’s doing it because he desperately wants to serve the dominant goddess in his life.
If you’re the type of woman that loves the idea of a man surrendering his sexuality for your pleasure, then I promise you’ll find immense satisfaction in introducing bisexual play into your femdom cuckold dynamic. It’s not for everyone, but if it’s for you then you will experience pure, perfect, overwhelming bliss when he does it.
Ultimately, convincing him to do it is all about focusing on his desire to submit. Don’t focus on the cock he’ll be sucking or his sexuality. Just focus on the fact that your cuckold husband wants nothing more than to make you happy, and to make you happy he needs to suck cock, or bend over and get fucked, or take a load on the face, or whatever turns you on.
When done right, bondage is a form of total surrender, which makes it a perfect way to add a little femdom to your cuckold relationship. There are so many ways to do it, too, so it comes down to what you’d find the most exciting.
Here are a few suggestions:
- Handcuff or tie him to the bed. Blindfold him if you’d like a little sensory deprivation. Then tease him. Use his body for your pleasure. Stroke his cock. Sit on his face. Ride him if he’s big enough to give you pleasure. Then, decide if he deserves to cum. If not, deny him an orgasm.
- Handcuff him to a chair while you fuck your bull. Put the chair at the foot of the bed. Handcuff or tie his wrists and ankles. Make sure he’s naked and aroused, preferably hard as a rock. Then, invite your bull into the bedroom and do as you please with him. To make the bondage a little hotter, you could have your bull fuck you doggystyle as you stare into your bound cuckold’s eyes.
- Tie him up securely, lie him in bed, and then crawl on top of him and fuck your bull. Your cuckold will be so close to the action, but he’ll be denied any pleasure as he’s made to watch without being able to touch you. Add a blindfold to deprive him of the view he craves.
- Put him in bondage before a date. You’ll have to make sure you’re not putting him in any danger (ropes/cuffs aren’t too tight, etc), but once you’re sure of that, you can bind him so he’s unable to move and then go out on a date while he sits there and imagines all the naughty things you’re doing with another man.
- Bind him while you masturbate. You can tie him to the chair again or cuff him in bed. Then do a little work to get him turned on – a lap dance, perhaps – before you settle in and play with your pussy while he watches. Dirty talk about how much he’d love to taste your pussy or fuck you or be the one to make you cum will enhance the experience.
Ultimately, think of this as a playground. You get to decide how he’s bound, how much freedom he has once he’s bound, and how you want to play with him once you have him under your control. The more powerless he feels, the more turned on he’s likely to be.
Put Him into Service
The simplest way to execute this is to pick a night and make it clear that your husband is effectively your butler for the duration of the evening. Have him prepare dinner for you. Have him serve it like he’s a waiter. If you want, you can deny him the chance to eat with you, or you can set his plate on the floor and make him eat like he’s a pet. His service should include body worship, too, so feel free to make him give you a lengthy massage from head to toe. Make him worship your pussy and ass to your heart’s content.
You can also put him into service in public. When you go shopping, treat him like your butler. Have him hold every piece of clothing you want to try on. Make him wait outside the fitting room with your clothes so he can hand you each piece while you publicly order him around. If you go out for coffee, have him order for you while you find a table. Make him clear away your dishes when you’re done, even if there’s a waiter for that.
If you have a bull, involve him in your cuckold’s service. Invite him over for dinner. Have your cuckold act as your waiter for the entire night. Make him cook, set the table, serve the two of you, check in every so often to make sure you’re happy, and clear the table. Have him rub your feet as you cuddle with your bull on the couch. If your cuckold’s service extends to preparing you orally, have him do so before you and your bull fuck.
If you have any friends that know about your lifestyle, invite them over for afternoon tea or a glass of wine and have your cuckold serve you. If your friends are open-minded, have your cuckold do so naked or in a pair of tight underwear that show off his small cock (if he has one). He’ll feel your domination in every way, and that’s what a submissive cuckold wants.
Pain can mean pleasure, for both you and your husband. If that’s the case for either of you, then you can incorporate CBT into your femdom cuckold play. Start slowly and carefully, though, because you can do actual damage here, and you don’t want to ruin either his cock or his balls, even if you don’t have any particular use for either in a sexual context.
A quick visit to a BDSM shop (online or in store) will reveal all kinds of devices for use in CBT femdom play. They are all geared towards creating sensations of pain and restriction for his cock, his balls, or both. I’d start with the stuff that’s least painful, like a collar and leash for his balls that allows you to stretch them a bit and then tug hard when you’re feeling the need to make him suffer just a bit. You could also try something like the humbler, which is a device that attaches to his balls and can then be attached to his ankles, which makes it difficult to move without tugging hard on his balls.
A man’s cock is actually fairly malleable, meaning it can withstand a decent amount of abuse, particularly when flaccid. You can yank and pull on it (within reason) to your heart’s content when it’s soft. If you want to be particularly devilish, you can buy a device that goes around his cock and has spikes on the inside. If he gets hard, he feels the pain of those spikes, and you determine if he gets hard.
Ultimately, there are so many ways to indulge in CBT that I can’t cover them all here, but it’s worth exploring if you and your cuckold find pleasure in pain.
He Wears a Cock Sheath/Strapon
This lovely little bit of femdom cuckold sex can work on two levels, both of which should trigger your cuckold’s submissive nature.
First, you’re letting him fuck you while denying him the pleasure of being inside you. Instead of slipping his cock into your pussy, he must wear a sheath or a strapon. I’d recommend the sheath – it’s essentially a semi-hollow tube that he wears over his cock – as he’ll actually be inside you, only he won’t be able to feel the pleasure of your pussy because of the sheath. I’m not sure I can think of a more potent form of denial.
Second, by insisting that he fuck you with the sheath or a strapon, you’re rejecting your husband’s cock, which will feel like a particularly blissful form of domination to him, especially if he has a small to average-sized dick. You can feel free to be explicit about it, too. Tell him that you need something bigger, that you need something that can satisfy you.
If you already have a strapon because you intend on fucking him, go ahead and have him use that to fuck you. It’s a little easier if his cock is locked in a chastity cage, though, because otherwise he might get hard and you might feel his cock pressing against your ass while he thrusts the strapon inside you, and I don’t think that’s what you want.
Butt Plug Play
There’s just something so kinky about taking ownership of your cuckold’s asshole, and whether you’re pegging him or not, butt plug play can be a dominant delight.
It’s essentially impossible for him to wear a butt plug and not know that it’s inside him, that his asshole has been penetrated and filled because his dominant wife demanded it. It’s a great way to keep him in a submissive headspace for as long as you desire, and you can increase the size of the plug if you want it to occupy a more significant space in his mind, though I’d recommend using the big ones for short term play.
There are so many ways to have fun with this little taste of femdom. Here are a few suggestions:
- Make a ritual out of plugging him. Have him shower and clean out that area. Have him get on his hands and knees for you. Have him reach back and spread his ass cheeks. If you want to be extra naughty, have him suck on the butt plug to lube it up a little (though also use lots of lubrication). You could even have him beg you to plug his ass.
- Buy him a pretty jeweled butt plug. It’s a little bit feminine and it will make it feel like his asshole is now decorated for your pleasure.
- Demand that he prove he’s still wearing his plug at random times. If you’re out, find a quiet, safe spot and have him pull down his pants and spread his cheeks. If he’s at home and you’re out, demand that he take a picture to show you that you still own his asshole and that it’s still plugged.
- Get a Bluetooth controlled vibrating plug and turn it on whenever you want. You can even turn it on from a long distance, which means you could vibrate your cuckold’s plugged asshole while he’s at work.
- Use the plug as a precursor to strapon sex with your cuckold. Put it in his asshole and tell him you’re just loosening him up for when you fuck him. He’ll spend every moment until you fuck him in a beautiful, submissive headspace.
Cocksucker Training with Your Strapon
Giving a blowjob doesn’t have to be a submissive act (it can be the exact opposite), but it certainly can be, and this particular form of femdom is all about making your cuckold feel submissive through the act of oral worship.
Put on your strapon and feel that surge of power that comes from being the one with the big, beautiful dick bouncing in front of you. Order your cuckold husband to fall to his knees in front of you and feel the power that accompanies such a thing. Look down at him and take your strapon in your hand. Stroke it slowly and smile as you tell him exactly what you’re going to do: Train him to be a good cocksucker for you.
Verbal play works exceptionally well in this instance. You want to keep him in that submissive headspace with lots of dirty talk. When he takes your dick in his mouth, tell him he’s being a good cocksucker for you. Instruct him to take it deeper for your pleasure. Instruct him to choke on it if you want to get a little more aggressive.
If you want, face fuck him a little bit. It might be unpleasant and he’ll probably gag, but he’ll feel submissive and you might feel incredibly powerful. Grab his head with both hands (or grab a really tight handful of his hair) and then pump your cock in and out of his mouth like it’s a hole meant for your pleasure. Feel the power that comes with doing so and let him feel the submission.
If you want this to be a little more fun, you can try and find a strapon that includes a small vibrator designed to pleasure your clit while you’re using it. There are also strapless dildos with one end that slides into you, which can actually make the experience quite pleasurable for you.
This bit of femdom cuckold fun is fairly simple: Let your husband worship your pussy, or, demand that he worship it. Either way, he offers himself in submission to your desires and you get to enjoy oral sex.
There are ways to amp up the femdom though, and I promise your husband will appreciate it. Here are a few ideas:
- Stand above him while he worships you from his knees. Make sure he looks up into your eyes while he eats your pussy. Run your fingers through his hair, tell him he’s a good boy, and even move your hips a little like you’re fucking his face.
- Ignore him while he’s worshiping your pussy. I know that might sound a little crazy, but if you order him between your legs and then turn on the TV and watch while he’s licking you, it can make him feel even more submissive. If you’re a little distracted, it can also make him work harder to make you cum, and the reward for him will feel particularly sweet when you finally begin to near your orgasm and start moaning.
- Have him worship your pussy in public. You can be as bold as you want here, but don’t risk getting arrested. Instead, sneak into a restaurant bathroom for a quick session so he has the taste of your pussy on his tongue while he eats dinner. Or maybe pull him behind a tree on a hike and have him go down on you for a bit. Use your best judgment, but don’t be afraid to indulge in a little public pussy worship if it’s safe.
- He worships anytime, any place. Say you’re in the middle of making dinner and you’d like a bit of pleasure. Call him in (or join him if he’s making dinner) and order him to his knees. Make him worship your pussy. If you’re showering and you’d like a little bit of pleasure, call him to the bathroom, make him get naked, and push him to his knees to eat you out. Each time you do so in an unexpected way, you assert your dominance over your submissive cuckold and he feels the pleasure even more intensely.
It’s important that you mix it up, for anything that becomes routine (like, say, a weekly Friday night worship session on the couch) can get a little boring. As with all of these ideas, feel free to get creative.
For an in depth look at verbally humiliating your cuckold, click the link to read the article I wrote (it includes audio examples).
Verbal humiliation is something of an art form. You have to find the sweet spot where you’re humiliating your cuckold but not hitting him so hard that you end up destroying him.
Generally, this is best accomplished by experimenting and discovering what turns both you and him on. For example, he might love hearing about how small his cock is. You might love the idea of talking about how well your bull fucks you. Assuming your bull has a big cock, you can easily master a form of dirty talk that includes your pleasure and your cuckold’s pleasure.
Refer to the article linked above for a much more detailed look at this form of femdom for your cuckold.
I hope you found the article informative, and I hope your marriage gets a little more interesting as you add a bit of femdom to your existing cuckold play.